Alhamdulillah

I got another testimonial for me. Something good was written about me again. I liked it. But I know I shouldn't get excited with anything nice I hear about me. I have a long way to go! For many things!

Today morning after waking up around 10 am I started typing the post for this blog. But even before I could finish it the connection got broke and I had to post it in the evening. So, I am here, again, to write about today!

I had initially planned to go to my uncle's house. Even my mother went there. I had decided to leave around 1 pm. But by the time I could actually get ready was 2 pm and till then my mother was back. I was wanting to get a few softwares from my uncle using a USB drive. But my brother was using it so there was no chance for me. I gave a thought to not going out and I removed my shoes and slept for 2 hours.

In the evening I studied for sometime and was back to my computer. I posted the update which I had saved in the morning and had chats with a few friends and cousins. I even cleaned my computer a little - deleted many useless files, uninstalled some software I was not using, ran the disk clean up wizard and performed a disk defragment. I did all this in the afternoon itself before getting ready!

There is a lot of talk going on at home about the beard I have presently. My parents and my brother have started to tease me now. Even my relatives have asked me if I was going to keep it. I have a simple answer. I will shave it till Friday. I have no particular reason for shaving it before this particular day, and there is no reason necessary to be written here why I didn't shave it for so long! But somehow I like my face when I look into the mirror. Nobody has commented in a positive way till now. Friday!

I was browsing the internet when I came across a blog http://topqualitiesofmenandwomen.blogspot.com/ .I found the article there interesting and good, and thought that it would be nice that I share it here on my blog. This was the lone article on that blog and I do not know who the author is.

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"Top Ten Qualities of Men and Women

There are many articles available today about what is the perfect attributes to have in order for a man or a woman to adore you or be attracted to you. The following is our Top Ten List of qualities or attributes that if you or your partner have will guarantee you to have a healthy, balanced relationship as well as being an attractive person both inside and out.

1)BALANCED: Balanced can mean many things, for the purposes of our article, we mean that you or your partner has a good sense of boundaries, that that you and your partner are a whole person and have a healthy lifestyle.

More specifically, you or your partner knows how to maintain their own boundaries and respect the boundaries of their partner. They understand the difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness.

It is important that you or your partner considers themself already a whole person, that you or your partner doesn’t need someone to fill themselves up or complete them in order to be a complete person. They need to have the belief system that a partner is there to enhance and support their natural, authentic expression, but is not needed to complete who they are.

A healthy balance in their lifestyle is also important such as not working themselves too much, drinking or eating too much or doing anything in excess.

2)CONFIDENT: You or your partner are self-confident and have high self esteem. You are confident that you can handle new things, even if you have never done it before or if you may not get it right the first time around. You or your partner has an internal point of reference; you do not need to have reassurance and complements from others to be confident. At the same time you are confident enough to accept compliments or criticism, and are not afraid to give compliments to other people.

3) INDEPENDENT You can be a functional person without relying on another person and you are not codependent.

Codependency is a condition that results from dysfunctional patterns based on unhealthy relationships. These dysfunctional patterns are socially learned patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting which result in dependency on other people, places, organizations, things and events to create approval, appreciation, self worth and love to achieve a sense of safety, self esteem, purpose and identity.

4)RELATIONSHIP MASTERY SKILLS: You or your partner knows how to relate in a relationship. You or your partner know important skills like communication skills, conflict resolution and negotiation techniques.

5)EMOTIONAL OPENNESS: You and your partner are able to be emotionally open and honest, being able to express your opinions and be comfortable enough to allow and support your partner’s emotional openness as well.

6)EMPATHETIC: You or your partner need to be able to empathize with the emotions, point of view and experiences of your partner, to be able to get right into their heads and feelings without judgment or trying to fix their situation.

7)UNCONDITIONAL LOVE: You and your partner need to understand the concept of unconditional love, to be able to love you partner whether you agree with their beliefs, emotions, feelings or behaviors. To be able to transcend the conditional love paradigm, even if you are not getting what you want at the given time.

8)ON DHARMIC PATH: A person who is on their dharmic path is someone who is in bliss for a great deal of their day. What a wonderful inspiration to be with someone who is on path.

9)NON-RESISTANT TO CHANGE: You or your partner is someone who is not in resistance to change, or at the very least understands when they are in resistance to change and allows themselves to go through the stages of adapting to change without resisting the process. You or your partner would need to understand and accept that change is a natural part of life.

10)SENSE OF HUMOUR: When the going gets tough, the tough start laughing. Do you ever find that when you make light of a difficult situation is a lot easier to get through? Well, having a partner who can make light of a situation (of course while still empathizing with your situation) is much easier on you than a partner who freaks out whenever something happens. Laughter brings gentle strength and renews your focus so you can be open to new ways of dealing with the situation.

Compatibility and knowing what are your wants, needs and requirements are all vital to finding your highest and best relationship. The list above, although depending upon your level of consciousness may seem a little out of reach. However, regardless of your personality and what you are seeking in a partner and what your partner is seeking in you, the list above are fail safe attributes that are universal to everyone that are within everyone’s reach and will guarantee a healthy relationship that sets the stage for both stability and expansion."

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Now a days my parents are hooked to a channel, Peace TV. Alhamdulillah they have reduced the viewing of silly television programs they used to watch. Peace TV is owned by IRF, an organization headed by Dr. Zakir Naik. Islamic Research Foundation mostly concentrates on comparative religion and also on Dawah work. In this channel they telecast programs in which various Muslim scholars speak. Apart from Dr. Zakir Naik, there are scholars from many parts of the world including US and far east. The channel is wonderful and precise.

Though I am not watching it regularly, the sound from the TV is always heard even when I am in the living room in front of my computer. Sometimes I do sit with my father and watch; dinner is accompanied by some TV. The talks of Dr. Zakir Naik are getting so into me that today while I was sleeping I saw a dream where I was sitting in one of his shows. I hear his voice everywhere whenever I am in the drawing room where the TV is kept!